I love this quote from Pema Chodron.
“We habitually erect a barrier called blame that keeps us from communicating genuinely with others, and we fortify it with our concepts of who’s right and who’s wrong. We do that with the people who are closest to us and we do it with political systems, and all kinds of things that we don’t like about our associates, or our society. It is a very common, ancient, well-perfected device for trying to feel better. Blame others. Blaming is a way to protect your heart, trying to protect what is soft and open and tender in yourself. Rather than own that pain, we scramble to find some comfortable ground”.
Some of us love the holidays, but for many, the biggest source of holiday stress is family. Fortunately, you have the power to change all that just by doing one thing and that would be simply changing your reaction. Nothing can hurt you when you feel peaceful inside, and creating an inner peace that endures is not as hard as it sounds.
1. Believe you are loved
Understand that negative childhood experiences lead to feeling unloved. Holidays trigger those feelings. Look inside yourself for the truth. Don’t let other people’s opinions effect you. When you love yourself, it won’t matter who else loves you.
2. Monitoring and changing you thoughts
Pay attention to your thoughts. Destructive thinking patterns are our worst enemy. I know it can be extremely difficult to focus on the good when unpleasant things are happening in your life, but when difficult thoughts come up, shift them. Think of something you love and focus on it. After awhile, you can train your subconscious mind to look at life differently. Pema Chödrön describes it as turning your thinking upside down.
3. Use suffering as medicine
I talk about this a lot, and I practice it in life. When I feel bad, I don’t hide from it. If I am surrounded with negative energy, I dance with it. If someone is trying to make me feel bad, I wish them compassion. When I first learned this technique, I was surprised how easy my heart responded to it. Breathe in what is difficult to bear, pain, fear and just take it all in and acknowledge it, then breathe out relief. Actually, it is remarkably simple and just takes practice. Eventually I found that taking in the pain heightened my awareness of exactly where I was stuck.
If you want to learn more about spirituality when facing difficult times, I highly recommend Pema Chödrön’s book “When Things Fall Apart. Pema is one of the most influential voices in contemporary spirituality, and became the first American woman to become a fully ordained Buddhist nun in Tibetan tradition.
On to food. As promised, here is the recipe for the most delicious vegan gravy I have ever had. Actually, I even like it better than traditional Thanksgiving gravy. I found it on the Whole Foods website and changed it up a little bit. The Whole Foods website is an excellent resource for vegan recipes. They also genuinely care about providing safe, labeled, non-GMO, food and products. Whole Foods worked in partnership with the Yes on 37 campaign here in California and helped establish the Non-GMO project. Thanks Whole Foods.
- 2 tbsp olive oil
- 3 cups low-sodium vegetable broth
- 1 cup chopped white onion
- 4 cloves garlic, chopped
- 8 ounces of mushrooms – any kind I used portabello, white & brown (which is approximately 3 cups chopped)
- 1 tsp poultry seasoning *see note in summary
- 2 tbsp fresh thyme, finely chopped
- 2 tbsp fresh rosemary, finely chopped
- Salt & Pepper
- ¼ cup dry red wine
- 2 fresh sage leaves, chopped
- 2 tbsp reduced-sodium tamari
- 3 tbsp nutritional yeast
- 2 tbsp whole-wheat flour (for gluten free gravy – use rice powder)
- ¼ tsp ground black pepper
- In a large sauce pan, heat olive oil.
- Add onion and mushrooms and saute three minutes.
- Add garlic and poultry seasoning and saute until onion is translucent about another minute or two.
- Add red wine and cook one minute, stirring constantly. Stir in remaining 3 cups of broth and fresh herbs. Bring to a boil, reduce heat and simmer.
- Meanwhile, in a small bowl, whisk together tamari, yeast and flour to form a thick paste.
- Add mixture to pan, whisking constantly to make sure the paste dissolves. Bring to a boil and boil another minute, stirring constantly. Add salt, pepper and fresh sage.
- Adjust seasonings.
- If you prefer it thicker, thicken with flour or cornstarch. 1 tablespoon flour (or cornstarch) to 1 tablespoon of water to make a paste and add. Keep adding and whisking to desired thickness.
You can also puree this for a smoother gravy. Hope you enjoy it. Vegan Day 567 – Wish me luck!Pin It